Your Sacred Space – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 7

Steps 1-6 of the EP7 program have been about aligning our inner environments and deepening our understanding of how we perceive and interact with the world around us. We have invested a great deal of time, energy, and possibly tears, so far ensuring that we strive to live on purpose in the moment and employing emotionally relevant repetition to dispel our disempowering beliefs and replace them with more empowering beliefs. These kind of changes take time though, from a physiological point of view, to literally concrete in new neural pathways so for a while we are in a vulnerable position where our external environment can easily pull us back in to the old way of being.

Step 7 is all about aligning our newly empowered inner environment, with our external environment so that our reinvention is supported and we can make our changes permanent. Our external environment includes other people, objects, places or roles where we are expected to be a particular way of being, the old way of being. We were introduced to the Environmental Audit tool as well as several other techniques for either changing your relationship with people, or things, or, if appropriate, removing them altogether. If anything is trying to pull you back in to a disempowering way of being, it is time to give it’s presence some thought.

Your environment is your sacred space.

– George Helou

Emotional Addictions

We are addicted to drama, I noticed this a long time ago. People will intentionally hold on to a photograph, or a job, or a relationship because it complies with their emotional addiction. It gives them the rush they need. Having lived out of a backpack for sometime, and still kind of do, I realised I couldn’t hold on to everything, I just had to keep the essentials like clothes, and a sleeping bag. So everything I had that used to remind me of past, sometimes sour, relationships has long since been disposed of in one way or another. There was just no space for it, I didn’t want it weighing me down unnecessarily.

When you are trying to make big changes in your life, for the better, it is important to realise the things in your external environment that trigger a negative response and a recurrence of your previous way of being. This is what the Environmental Audit helps with. By identifying the people, objects or situations in your life that trigger some sort of drama, and then assessing how they both affirm, and clash with your new value rich and purpose centered life, you can take the steps required to make some changes.

Biochemistry

We addressed our bodies biochemical responses to our beliefs in Step 1: Empowered Identity. Our beliefs literally affect our cells which forms the basis for our habitual responses to external stimuli. And, when we a taking in something like 4 billions bits of information every second, but only consciously aware of 2000 bits there are a great deal of ‘bits’ that can be having an affect on our body without our awareness. Personal Assessment helps us to analyse our disempowering ideas so we can weed out the poisonous beliefs and then we can start to plant new ones.

What we are doing is altering our biochemistry which is going to take some time so we have to be patient and repetitive but we also have to become more aware of the triggers in our environment that may try to revert our biochemistry before we have had a chance to fully embed our new way of being. In much the same way that we want to get rid of those old things, we may also want to introduce new situations, or places, or people, that help to reinforce and live our purpose with ease. We can take advantage of the same methods used to implant old ideas to support and enforce the desired new ideas – emotional repetition and immersion.

Common Sense

Give them an invitation to meet you in a better place.

– George Helou

I know that I have probably said this about most, if not all, of the content delivered in this EP7 program thus far but this of course makes a great deal of sense. If the people you are interacting with regularly are bringing you down when you want to excel and be empowered to live your purpose then perhaps it is time to make some changes. They are robbing you of your right to enjoy quality experiences moment to moment and you have the free will to choose your experience. If, after confronting those relationships with compassion, understanding and respect, your non-negotiable values aren’t reciprocated it may be time to part ways.

Come to an end…

Step 7 marks the end of the Empowered for Purpose program, far too quickly in my opinion. It seems like only yesterday I was sitting down for that first session with a slight feeling of uncertainty and apprehension, but always an open mind. I can honestly say that I have learnt a lot, not just the tools and information conveyed in the program, but mostly about myself and those conscious and subconscious beliefs that have been having an impact in my life. I have also learnt that I have the capability, and courage, to finally confront and change some of those limiting beliefs that are of no benefit to me.

Although the program has ended my journey has only just begun. Equipped with the tools and knowledge developed by George I feel like I have everything I need to be the leader of the extraordinary life that we all aspire to; the life we are all meant to be living. I plan to make EP7 a permanent part of my day-to-day experience implementing the tools where appropriate to ensure I am living on purpose in each moment.

Thank you George for the opportunity to take part and be involved and thank you to everyone who was there to share in the journey.


If you missed the previous weeks you can check them out here…

Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1

Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2

The Dark Side – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 3

That gut feeling… – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 4

It’s all about Purpose – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 5

Prioritise Purpose – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 6


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.

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Prioritise Purpose – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 6

Seize the moment

– George Helou

I am beginning to think we have been sold a lie. Well I think there are many lies that have messed with how we see ourselves in the this life but this one in particular is about ‘purpose’. I touched on how I struggled with the idea of purpose in the last EP7 post but now I can see how we have all bought in to the idea that we all have just one purpose in our life and one day we may just find it. By believing we have just one over-arching purpose and we have no control over when and where it will come to us we are setting ourselves up for a life of endless searching.

New found reality for me is that purpose can be created in each moment, every interaction with every person and every action or role we undertake. We can consciously and intentionally create purpose in even the most minute, seemingly insignificant tasks like washing the dishes, or drinking a cup of tea. We don’t have just one purpose, we can have an infinite number of purposes that can help us to achieve amazing experiences in each moment. And when we are living on purpose in each moment it is almost impossible for us to NOT lead extraordinary lives and project awesomeness in everything we do.

It is exciting and motivating to know that I can create a detailed purpose for every aspect of my life; I am certainly working on it. I wouldn’t imagine a lot of people out there would have created and committed their purpose to being a brother, a son, a friend, or a mountain biker, a writer, an entrepreneur etc to paper. I’m not claiming to have done it yet but they are on my list and I have the tools needed to make it happen 🙂 More importantly though is your purpose to your own emotional well-being and your physical health which I know will set me up for the rest.

Be Assertive, Be, Be Assertive

If you can name the title of the very obscure movie reference I will give you a … [thinking…]

My new favourite word is ‘Assertive’! A dictionary may define assertive as being “confidently aggressive or self-assured” but I think there is more to it than that. To me, being assertive means having respect for yourself and displaying a commitment to live, and die, by your values and purpose which are non-negotiable. It means that you have prioritised your hearts purpose to yourself, others, and your goals and if something were to get in your way you have the inner strength and resolve to acknowledge and respectfully pardon its intrusion and carry on unaffected.

This kind of assertiveness can only come with being value and principle centered in your purpose in each moment. If you aren’t living your purpose, you must be living someone elses to a large extent and that feeling of unhappiness, boredom, denial is an indicator that your are due for a reinvention. So get creative! Create a purpose that makes your heart skip and gives you butterflies and then decide that no matter what, you are going to be a rock, an un-moveable rock, and a little bit selfish because you refuse to let anything besides your value-rich purpose exist.

To me there is a tremendous amount of power in such a decision and in knowing you can create quality in everything you do, adversely that power is taken from us when we let other’s purpose dictate our lives. It is apparent to me now that we have over-complicated the idea of purpose. I also believe that we all know what makes our heart turn on but we are led to believe that we can’t have it because life is hard, it’s a struggle, and we don’t have enough time or money or some deep-rooted belief,  dirty context, halts us.

We have been tricked in to believing that the heart is an expensive luxury.

-George Helou

Step 6: Living on Purpose

So step 6 is all about translating the purpose we created in the numerous areas of our lives in to practical steps designed to bring us to the present in each moment. Emphasising the journey itself as the sweetness of life, composed of a series of destination moments for us to live on purpose rather than some superior destination somewhere in the future. In any moment we can stop and ask ourselves “how can I inject my purpose here?”, or “what values am I aligning with and expressing?” to help us to ‘own’ that moment and manifest a quality experience.

Success is not in a destination found in time. It’s a journey of a hearts purpose served by mind.

– George Helou

George introduced to us the concept of neural triggers a couple of weeks ago and it was in this session I saw just how they can be used to help us be in each moment and task. The idea of planning your day certainly isn’t a new one, and I have dabbled in this practice on and off in the past as a time management tool but when you throw in neural triggers that shift your attention back to your purpose, for each scheduled activity, it takes on a whole new meaning. The neural triggers in Step 6 function as a timeley reminder of the values that you want to be present and exchanged with every person and task. Certainly a practice I want to solidify in to my routine.

Achieving more with the perception of less…

The lack of time and money are two of the greatest myths of all time of which we have all subscribed to in some way at some time. They are the immediate obstacles we put up to explain why we can’t live from our heart. We either don’t have the money to live a life that excites us or we just don’t have the time to. Ironically enough, our lack of time is probably a result of working too much trying to get the money we need to finally take the plunge and live on purpose, from the heart. However, this far in to EP7 if you still don’t believe that your detailed purpose, to yourself and everything else, is a top priority there is something amiss.

George outlines a couple of practical and common-sense techniques to achieve more bang for your buck by injecting as much purpose in to everything you do. This may sound like a lot of hard work, and in the beginning it will be, but we are assured it will become more natural with time and practice, much like anything. Knowing what we know about how the development of skills and habits is simply the disconnecting and reconnecting of the 100 billion neurons in the brain all we have to do is do it enough to forge those desired pathways so that they become effortless. We will then be able to flow from moment to moment satisfying multiple purposes simultaneously.

One such technique was leveraging. You could leverage someone else’s purpose to help satisfy your own purpose, much like skill-swapping but rather than a conditional trade expecting something in return, perhaps the trade itself can be the reward. Or you could better leverage your routine or other tasks to combine purpose from multiple areas of your life in to a moment. For example walking to the store to get milk could serve your purpose to your health, but you could also call a friend the way and serve your purpose to a friendship. The depth of the layering is only really restricted by your imagination.

Knowledge and Wisdom

Learning what I have learnt over the past 6 weeks I feel incredibly confident and capable in my ability to completely re-invent myself at any time. Although I am still yet to master the tools provided I am determined to make them a part of my life. George has left nothing open to interpretation; everything from our biological capacity to be extraordinary to the practical means of designing and living on purpose has been provided in a way that appeals to common sense, not requiring faith in something unseen. The knowledge alone acquired thus far is enough to make me look at certain situations differently but with the use of the tools over time, wisdom and experience will become my teachers.


If you missed the previous weeks you can check them out here…

Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1

Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2

The Dark Side – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 3

That gut feeling… – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 4

It’s all about Purpose – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 5


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.

It’s all about Purpose – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 5

You must write your first draft with your heart. You rewrite with your head.

– Finding Forrester (Movie)

I wouldn’t imagine I was alone in believing that ‘purpose’ was something to be found. It has been something that I have struggled with in the couple of months prior to EP7, pretty much the time that I had decided to leave Ireland and come back to Perth. The question ‘what do I want to do?’ plagued me, ‘what is my purpose?’ repeated over and over. Then I started to question even further ‘what is purpose?’ , ‘what does it mean to have purpose?’, ‘how does one live purpose?’. Of course believing that purpose is something that we happen upon one day, rather than being able to create it, lead me to assume that I just haven’t found mine yet, and perhaps I never would.

Eventually it occurred to me that maybe ‘purpose’ isn’t some thing, like an object, but rather a ‘way’ of being. To live ‘on purpose’, purposeful living, intentional living. Maybe I had just been looking at the word and it’s definition incorrectly. With that little shift in context it became a little clearer but the question now became ‘what is my intention?’.

Creating Purpose

The thing I love the most about George’s EP7 program is how he injects reality and life into some of the most whimsical of concepts. In Step 5: Purpose, he has made the idea of creating and living my purpose so real and tangible for me that I would have to be a complete dummy to not see that I can now achieve genius outcomes in all areas of my life. He has managed to remove any uncertainty I had about purpose and replaced them with just one question ‘Am I going to get out of my own way and allow myself to create and live my purpose?’.

Values are the language of the heart.

– George Helou

I realised some time ago that life is all about having quality experiences. Travelling taught me that! It’s not about the things your own, the money you have, where you are or who you are with; what really matters is that you have something to get excited about, something that makes you jump out of bed in the morning. Whilst I knew all of this, and had had amazing experiences I felt as if I was still missing something. It now seems apparent to me that although I had these amazing experiences from time to time in different places, and with different people, maybe I was going about them the wrong way.

This is quite literally only just occurring to me now as I write this, but perhaps my recipe for quality experiences was ‘new people, new places’ all the time. But now, with George’s introduction to the concept of value literacy and purpose development I can now see how I can create those quality experiences in my life every day, anywhere! We can all achieve amazing experiences in our every day lives by taking the time to create our purpose to ourselves, others and our roles then allowing ourselves to live them in alignment with our values.

How could this not create the quality experiences we all crave?

Our heart knows what we want, our gut tells us when we have found it and our head tries its best to stop us unless we train it otherwise…

Crystal Clear

Purpose used to feel like such a hard thing to define but now it feels so real, touchable almost. I can see now that by becoming clear on our purpose and intention in all areas of life, the attainment of our desires, and quality experiences becomes effortless and natural. We can become more stream-lined, fast-tracking our success. In much the same way our limiting thoughts and beliefs prevented our breakthroughs, our commitment to purpose and values will create a new blinkered range where we can’t see anything besides excellence and love.

Our purpose is at the mercy of our imagination.

– George Helou

We will also have a much greater respect for ourselves so when situations arise that don’t align with our heart we will have the courage to assert our free will and respectfully decline involvement. By employing the prescribed emotionally relevant repetition in the Purpose Developer Template we can take control of the very same mechanism that implanted those disempowering thoughts and beliefs in the first place. We can re-wire our neurons connecting them up with entirely new ideas, values and principles to help us live more inline with our heart’s purpose and turn life into a quality experience.


If you missed the previous weeks you can check them out here…

Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1

Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2

The Dark Side – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 3

That gut feeling… – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 4


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.

That gut feeling… – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 4

Step 4 of EP7, Empowered for Purpose, is all about developing and trusting our intuition to help us live more in tune with our desires. What really stood out for me during this session was how George described intuition as a function of our subconscious mind, transcending time as we know it, to analyse facts unavailable to our five senses. That’s pretty trippy! I pictured my subconscious zipping from my body, travelling in to the future and then giving me instant feedback, via a feeling, a voice or an image, before I even had a chance to register the incoming information on a conscious level. As amusing as it sounds it feels very real.

Intuition has played a large part in my travels in the past couple of years. I had my first realisation of the power if intuition when I was on my way back to Perth from Ireland a couple of months ago. It was quite a journey involving 8 hours in Amsterdam, 5 days in Bangkok and something like 16 hours in Singapore. Besides the 5 days in Bangkok, all that time was spent sitting in the airport, sleeping, contemplating, reflecting. It was while I was in Singapore that I suddenly realised just how effortlessly my intuition had guided me to the experiences I had desired.

If you aren’t trusting your gut you are disabling yourself where you need it the most.

-George Helou

It had occurred to me that all of the experiences I had been fortunate to have over the 12 months prior were pretty much exactly as I had desired. 6-months before I left England I was living on an eco-campsite where I lived and worked as a volunteer with an amazing group of people. We all shared similar interests in sustainability, farming, animals and the environment. It was there that I fell in love with horses and first started to learn to ride and care for them. I was desperate to learn more but I knew there wasn’t much more I could learn there.

Portugal

Although my departure from Cerenety was difficult, and semi-forced by the misplacement of an important document I needed to apply for residency just days prior to the end of my visa, I decided to head off. I ended up in Portugal, in the beautiful Algarve, at a horse yard helping to look after 19 horses. Here I was able to learn more about these amazing beings, and take my riding to the next level. I can still remember the first time I cantered…it was like flying! I spent 5 weeks there then moved a bit further north in to the Alentajo to work with some more horses and it was there I got my introduction to natural horsemanship.

While in Portugal learning more about horses I started to also learn a bit more about sustainability and self-sufficiency, mainly growing your own food. Surrounding the horse yard in the Algarve were small plots of land owned and worked by locals to grow all sorts of fruit and vegetables and it peaked my interest. It was then my desire to learn more about growing food which I believe led me to…

Romania

..to a 200 hectare water buffalo farm. The owner of the farm had grand visions of building a permaculture farm and sustainable food production system but openly confessed he didn’t hold all the keys. When I first arrived at the farm the raised beds were indistinguishable from the knee-high grass and weeds. I took it upon myself to clear it out, clean it up and through my demonstration of desire I was entrusted to keeping all the vegetables alive and thriving. Pretty much exactly what I wanted!

I spent days devouring book after book learning about each individual vegetable and about seed saving and optimal soil conditions. I had the freedom to do what I thought best and I learnt a hell of a lot in a short space of time. My time in Romania was limited to three months but I started to feel the urge to move on after two. I began to have the feeling that it would be nice to have my own space and even more freedom to combine my love of horse and growing food. It was then that I met some people from Ireland and decided to book a flight; two weeks later I was in Dublin.

Ireland

I ended up out in West Cork just outside of a small town, close to the coast, called Skibbereen. I spent 4 weeks living with Marian, a retired horticulturist, and her artist friend Maurice. My job there was to help out around the garden which is a small price to pay to learn about Marian’s gardening philosophy, and what some may call an ‘unkept’ garden. Marian knew every weed and plant and the role it played in maintaining optimal growing conditions for the surrounding plants. We spent hours exchanging ideas and I tried to tackle her complete library of gardening books.

The house and gardens were on one acre surrounded by an additional 4 1-acre fields hidden by hedges. Most of the surrounding land was once owned by her family but now it was only her 5 acres and the one acre owned by her sister that remained. These 4 1-acre fields sat empty, in the hope that one day her children might take up an interest in market gardening, or farming, or permaculture. There is little doubt that this was an opportunity for me to do something more with her land. Marian did hint, not always so subtly, that if I were to stay I would be welcome to use it under an agreement.

Whilst I did acknowledge this opportunity at the time I know that something held me back. What now feels like an excuse, I used the fact I had only been granted a 1-month stay in Ireland to leave but now I am certain that there was much more to it than that. It was exactly what I was looking for; I could have combined my love of horses and growing food in one place. Under the experienced and knowledgable eye of Marian and her extensive local network, it was a great opportunity. What makes it worse was that I was conscious of the fact I was holding myself back, I was totally aware of the limiting beliefs, that manifested themselves as fear and doubt, and I let them take over when I could have addressed it, re-imagined a different outcome and let intuition do it’s thing.

The Power of Intuition

I feel that this is one of those moments where I didn’t listen to my intuition which was handing me exactly what it was that I wanted at that time. With the help of EP7 it is now so clear to me that at times we are our worst enemies, putting our head in the way of our heart and gut. It is becoming increasingly evident to me that it is one thing to know what you want for your life but it is another thing entirely to not be simultaneously pushing your desires away through the retention of limiting ideas and beliefs.

If you always do what you have always done then you will always get what you have always got.

– Tony Robbins

So it was through this reflection of those past 12 months that I came to really appreciate the power of intuition. Without even been consciously aware, my intuition was constantly pushing me in the right direction. I realised then, and this has been affirmed through the EP7 program so far, that when we allow our intuition, that gut feeling, to rule, the attainment of our desires is effortless. But, adversely, when we allow our disempowering beliefs to exist unaddressed we are intentionally self-sabotaging ourselves


If you missed the previous weeks you can check them out here…

Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1

Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2

The Dark Side – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 3


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.

The Dark Side – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 3

We are only ever one context away from a breakthrough!

– George Helou

In the interest of remaining transparent and truthful about my EP7 experience I must confess that I am struggling. As much as George tells us all to not judge ourselves too harshly I still find myself beating myself up over the realisations I am having about my behaviour and beliefs in the areas of my life that I feel I am lacking. The personal assessment work and the deconstruction of disempowering ideas is revealing a great deal more than I had expected to find but it is only through awareness of the things holding us back that we can start to ‘re-imagine’ a different outcome. And this is the point of the program thus far; know your biological potential to be outstanding, understand where you are now, and then, Step 3: Imagination, is about identifying your ability to re-imagine an alternate destiny more in line with your desires.

Down, but not out…

I feel like I have certainly opened up to another side of my being…I am going to call it the ‘Dark Side’! Not a Star Wars reference, more a metaphor for the dark side of the moon, unseen, kept in darkness, but it is a part of the whole moon nonetheless. The Personal Assessment process is revealing a number of beliefs that aren’t really conducive to desirable quality experiences and I am starting to realise that things don’t have to be that way any longer. With the use of my imagination I have the power to think beyond my current beliefs and ‘re-imagine’ something new. The only little obstacle I am currently facing is myself; I have to stop judging myself and start to look, and think, beyond the current version of myself.

We are always imagining a ‘version’ of reality!

Our beliefs are nothing more than a series of ideas, or ‘filters’ through which we interpret the information coming in. It was incredibly useful for me to visualise a series of hanging hoops, with me on one end, and the rest of the world on the other. As I am looking through these hoops, each hoop being a different idea, they all influence how I am seeing the world at the end. Personal Assessment helps us to identify each individual hoop and our imagination allows us to substitute these hoops, ideas, with other, better-serving, ideas completely transforming how we perceive the world. We can re-imagine another version of reality!

Imagination is a preview of life’s coming attractions.

– Albert Einstein

It sounds way too easy but despite some resistance it is starting to seem pretty logical to me. I know that the resistance I am feeling is of my own creation fuelled by my own judgements and my pre-conditioning. In order to allow my imagination to take the reins and and re-imagine a version of reality more in tune with my heart I have to detach and allow what is to be, without judgement or criticism. Only then, with patience and clear intention, can I begin to re-imagine and create more empowering relationships and situations.


If you missed week 1 or week 2 read about it here > Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1 and Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.