That gut feeling… – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 4

Step 4 of EP7, Empowered for Purpose, is all about developing and trusting our intuition to help us live more in tune with our desires. What really stood out for me during this session was how George described intuition as a function of our subconscious mind, transcending time as we know it, to analyse facts unavailable to our five senses. That’s pretty trippy! I pictured my subconscious zipping from my body, travelling in to the future and then giving me instant feedback, via a feeling, a voice or an image, before I even had a chance to register the incoming information on a conscious level. As amusing as it sounds it feels very real.

Intuition has played a large part in my travels in the past couple of years. I had my first realisation of the power if intuition when I was on my way back to Perth from Ireland a couple of months ago. It was quite a journey involving 8 hours in Amsterdam, 5 days in Bangkok and something like 16 hours in Singapore. Besides the 5 days in Bangkok, all that time was spent sitting in the airport, sleeping, contemplating, reflecting. It was while I was in Singapore that I suddenly realised just how effortlessly my intuition had guided me to the experiences I had desired.

If you aren’t trusting your gut you are disabling yourself where you need it the most.

-George Helou

It had occurred to me that all of the experiences I had been fortunate to have over the 12 months prior were pretty much exactly as I had desired. 6-months before I left England I was living on an eco-campsite where I lived and worked as a volunteer with an amazing group of people. We all shared similar interests in sustainability, farming, animals and the environment. It was there that I fell in love with horses and first started to learn to ride and care for them. I was desperate to learn more but I knew there wasn’t much more I could learn there.

Portugal

Although my departure from Cerenety was difficult, and semi-forced by the misplacement of an important document I needed to apply for residency just days prior to the end of my visa, I decided to head off. I ended up in Portugal, in the beautiful Algarve, at a horse yard helping to look after 19 horses. Here I was able to learn more about these amazing beings, and take my riding to the next level. I can still remember the first time I cantered…it was like flying! I spent 5 weeks there then moved a bit further north in to the Alentajo to work with some more horses and it was there I got my introduction to natural horsemanship.

While in Portugal learning more about horses I started to also learn a bit more about sustainability and self-sufficiency, mainly growing your own food. Surrounding the horse yard in the Algarve were small plots of land owned and worked by locals to grow all sorts of fruit and vegetables and it peaked my interest. It was then my desire to learn more about growing food which I believe led me to…

Romania

..to a 200 hectare water buffalo farm. The owner of the farm had grand visions of building a permaculture farm and sustainable food production system but openly confessed he didn’t hold all the keys. When I first arrived at the farm the raised beds were indistinguishable from the knee-high grass and weeds. I took it upon myself to clear it out, clean it up and through my demonstration of desire I was entrusted to keeping all the vegetables alive and thriving. Pretty much exactly what I wanted!

I spent days devouring book after book learning about each individual vegetable and about seed saving and optimal soil conditions. I had the freedom to do what I thought best and I learnt a hell of a lot in a short space of time. My time in Romania was limited to three months but I started to feel the urge to move on after two. I began to have the feeling that it would be nice to have my own space and even more freedom to combine my love of horse and growing food. It was then that I met some people from Ireland and decided to book a flight; two weeks later I was in Dublin.

Ireland

I ended up out in West Cork just outside of a small town, close to the coast, called Skibbereen. I spent 4 weeks living with Marian, a retired horticulturist, and her artist friend Maurice. My job there was to help out around the garden which is a small price to pay to learn about Marian’s gardening philosophy, and what some may call an ‘unkept’ garden. Marian knew every weed and plant and the role it played in maintaining optimal growing conditions for the surrounding plants. We spent hours exchanging ideas and I tried to tackle her complete library of gardening books.

The house and gardens were on one acre surrounded by an additional 4 1-acre fields hidden by hedges. Most of the surrounding land was once owned by her family but now it was only her 5 acres and the one acre owned by her sister that remained. These 4 1-acre fields sat empty, in the hope that one day her children might take up an interest in market gardening, or farming, or permaculture. There is little doubt that this was an opportunity for me to do something more with her land. Marian did hint, not always so subtly, that if I were to stay I would be welcome to use it under an agreement.

Whilst I did acknowledge this opportunity at the time I know that something held me back. What now feels like an excuse, I used the fact I had only been granted a 1-month stay in Ireland to leave but now I am certain that there was much more to it than that. It was exactly what I was looking for; I could have combined my love of horses and growing food in one place. Under the experienced and knowledgable eye of Marian and her extensive local network, it was a great opportunity. What makes it worse was that I was conscious of the fact I was holding myself back, I was totally aware of the limiting beliefs, that manifested themselves as fear and doubt, and I let them take over when I could have addressed it, re-imagined a different outcome and let intuition do it’s thing.

The Power of Intuition

I feel that this is one of those moments where I didn’t listen to my intuition which was handing me exactly what it was that I wanted at that time. With the help of EP7 it is now so clear to me that at times we are our worst enemies, putting our head in the way of our heart and gut. It is becoming increasingly evident to me that it is one thing to know what you want for your life but it is another thing entirely to not be simultaneously pushing your desires away through the retention of limiting ideas and beliefs.

If you always do what you have always done then you will always get what you have always got.

– Tony Robbins

So it was through this reflection of those past 12 months that I came to really appreciate the power of intuition. Without even been consciously aware, my intuition was constantly pushing me in the right direction. I realised then, and this has been affirmed through the EP7 program so far, that when we allow our intuition, that gut feeling, to rule, the attainment of our desires is effortless. But, adversely, when we allow our disempowering beliefs to exist unaddressed we are intentionally self-sabotaging ourselves


If you missed the previous weeks you can check them out here…

Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1

Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2

The Dark Side – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 3


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.

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The Dark Side – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 3

We are only ever one context away from a breakthrough!

– George Helou

In the interest of remaining transparent and truthful about my EP7 experience I must confess that I am struggling. As much as George tells us all to not judge ourselves too harshly I still find myself beating myself up over the realisations I am having about my behaviour and beliefs in the areas of my life that I feel I am lacking. The personal assessment work and the deconstruction of disempowering ideas is revealing a great deal more than I had expected to find but it is only through awareness of the things holding us back that we can start to ‘re-imagine’ a different outcome. And this is the point of the program thus far; know your biological potential to be outstanding, understand where you are now, and then, Step 3: Imagination, is about identifying your ability to re-imagine an alternate destiny more in line with your desires.

Down, but not out…

I feel like I have certainly opened up to another side of my being…I am going to call it the ‘Dark Side’! Not a Star Wars reference, more a metaphor for the dark side of the moon, unseen, kept in darkness, but it is a part of the whole moon nonetheless. The Personal Assessment process is revealing a number of beliefs that aren’t really conducive to desirable quality experiences and I am starting to realise that things don’t have to be that way any longer. With the use of my imagination I have the power to think beyond my current beliefs and ‘re-imagine’ something new. The only little obstacle I am currently facing is myself; I have to stop judging myself and start to look, and think, beyond the current version of myself.

We are always imagining a ‘version’ of reality!

Our beliefs are nothing more than a series of ideas, or ‘filters’ through which we interpret the information coming in. It was incredibly useful for me to visualise a series of hanging hoops, with me on one end, and the rest of the world on the other. As I am looking through these hoops, each hoop being a different idea, they all influence how I am seeing the world at the end. Personal Assessment helps us to identify each individual hoop and our imagination allows us to substitute these hoops, ideas, with other, better-serving, ideas completely transforming how we perceive the world. We can re-imagine another version of reality!

Imagination is a preview of life’s coming attractions.

– Albert Einstein

It sounds way too easy but despite some resistance it is starting to seem pretty logical to me. I know that the resistance I am feeling is of my own creation fuelled by my own judgements and my pre-conditioning. In order to allow my imagination to take the reins and and re-imagine a version of reality more in tune with my heart I have to detach and allow what is to be, without judgement or criticism. Only then, with patience and clear intention, can I begin to re-imagine and create more empowering relationships and situations.


If you missed week 1 or week 2 read about it here > Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1 and Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.

Fork in the Road, Point of no Return – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 2

Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.

– Dr. Martin Luther King. Jr

A couple of weeks ago I had a bizarre dream, in which, I was a serial killer! So there I was, knocking off the townsfolk one by one and then, when I got found out, I ran and jumped off of a cliff which was conveniently located within sprinting distance. The sensation of jumping off of the cliff felt so real to me that I actually woke up and I still remember how it felt to just be free-falling. Ignoring the inevitable end experienced in our world of form when jumping off of a cliff; it was an amazing feeling. I do believe that our dreams can relay us messages or insights about our lives and I have created a rather significant meaning for the events in that dream since my last Empowered for Purpose session.

Think of me, the serial killer, as my awareness, the townsfolk as my disempowering and limiting thoughts and beliefs. These ‘townsfolk’ one by one meet an unsavoury end, and then, being found out was exposure to one last, deeply-held belief which led me to take the life-changing plunge to destroy it and experience the weightlessness and freedom that came with it. Now, I woke up in the sensation of falling, not landing, so I am concluding that I am to experience this weightlessness and freedom eternally. Based on some new insight from George, this interpretation of my dream, I feel, serves as an indication of what is to come. The slaying of my deep-seated, invisible but ever-present, limiting thoughts and beliefs leading to personal freedom and empowerment.

Personal Assessment

We live what we believe because we cannot experience an environment separate from our interpretation of it.

– George Helou

Last week in the EP7 course we were introduced to Step 1, our Empowered Identity; our true identity, and we learnt how our biology is shaped by our perception of the environment, and our perception of the environment is influenced by our thoughts and beliefs.  We interpret the environment as we interact with it and decide, consciously or unconsciously, what experience we are going to have in a particular moment. We have already heard how our billions of Neurons have the ability to connect and disconnect to create and reinforce habits, beliefs and behaviours so now, in the Personal Assessment, we aim to expose these learnt programmes, those that serve us and those that don’t.

Employing George’s Critical Thinking Process we analysed how we act, feel and think in the times that we were/are empowered to unearth our underlying positive beliefs. The same process is used to unearth our limiting beliefs by analysing the times when we are disempowered. This step is really about working out where you stand in relation to your true, empowered, identity, and provides practical skills to bridge the gap; becoming the responder in your interactions with your environment rather than the reactor.

The ‘Feedback Loop’

My first epiphany from the last session was how our infinitely complex neural connections, learnt programmes, effortlessly serve us when we feel empowered. This realisation came to me when following the critical thinking process for an empowerment question; the question was ‘What do you enjoy doing the most?’. With a bit of coaching through the process by George, a couple of beliefs I held and lived were uncovered which I was not consciously aware of. The eventual answer to the question ‘What do I enjoy the most?’ was ‘Arriving in a new city’.

Now, I tend not to do much planning when I head off to a new city, in fact, I barely plan anything at all! Depending on what time I will arrive, I may tentatively pre-arrange some accommodation in a hostel to ensure I am not out on the street too late at night, but besides from that, getting from the airport to the city centre, finding somewhere to sleep, food, a beer, etc is all part of the excitement…especially in non-english speaking countries. The sense of freedom felt when it is just me and my backpack with no itinerary, no destination brings me to the present to fully absorb my surroundings and enjoy the journey.

I can’t say I have ever really had a problem with this approach, if I have I obviously haven’t taken too much notice of it, but for most people I can understand this would drive them absolutely mad. Fortunately I travel alone. I can imagine most people will plan their arrival down to the last tiny detail but because of my deeply held beliefs I am able to experience something entirely different. I am able to fully surrender myself to the adventure and experience my environment free from fear or anxiety because I believe that my openness to possibilities gives me the ability to overcome potential difficulties and that when I approach people, for help or directions, as equals I can create quality experiences.

My epiphanic moment came when I realised that these beliefs aren’t conscious to me; I am not walking around saying to myself that I have to be open to possibilities so I have the ability to overcome obstacles, or I need to approach people as equals to create quality experiences, it just happens naturally, effortlessly. These beliefs are hard-wired in and have been for so long that when I arrive in a new city they just kick in and I can be present to enjoy the experience while my sub-conscious beliefs do the work of interpreting the environment for me.

Even just writing about this realisation is making my head explode all over again…

Epiphany two came immediately after re-assembling my scattered brain fragments from epiphany one; if my positive beliefs are so hardwired that they automatically create amazing experiences for me, what negative beliefs do I hold that are sub-consciously holding me back in other areas of my life? If it is possible to have positive beliefs that are so instilled serve me without me being aware, what negative beliefs are preventing me from thriving without me being aware? The shocking part about this possibility is that we can feel when we are disempowered; it usually hits us as a ‘bad’ feeling, an emotion we don’t necessarily like, in much the same way when we feel empowered and experience a good feeling. These ‘bad’ feelings are an indication of a limiting or disempowering belief but instead of acknowledging its presence as an opportunity for personal growth, George outlined 4 common ways we sever the feedback loop; denial, victimisation, excuses or blame.

What is even more shocking to me is that I thought I knew all this stuff! I thought I already lived it and was aware enough to overcome disempowering situations but actually all I was doing was acknowledging the bad emotion and accepting it deservedly. I suppose that some of the time I may actually overcome a disempowering situation consciously but perhaps only when it seemed convenient or inescapable. Even as I write this I am shaking my head at myself and asking why anyone would choose to accept the illusion of a limitation when we know we can change it?

“We’re all hypocrites because…” – George Helou

Sounds a bit harsh, I admit, but I have come to realise that it may be somewhat true. I can see from doing that one critical analysis of a time when I felt empowered that one of my beliefs is almost in direct conflict with a situation when I feel disempowered. I am pretty sure that this is the point George is trying to drive home but it seems like common sense…now! How can I, in one situation, believe that approaching someone with an open heart as an equal creates a rewarding experience but almost believe the opposite in another situation. This is nonsensical…but I would put what little money I have on the fact that we all do it! Imagine knowing that you held a particular belief in one area of your life that you really want to thrive in and then realising that you have the opposite belief in another area of your life you are already thriving in. Which of the two do you actually believe?

The Point of no Return

You can not solve a problem with the same mind that created it!

-Albert Einstein

I have to confess that I didn’t expect to have my world rocked quite so much in just one evening…and this journey is still only just beginning! After the session, on the way home with George, seemingly out of nowhere, I suddenly felt a massive change come over me. I blame George and his wisdom entirely, but it was as if I collapsed a big internal wall allowing myself to see that there is room for improvement in some areas of my life, and that I was denying myself the opportunity to grow by simply ignoring them when confronted by them.

I moved from a place of resistance to a place of curiosity, curious to find out what is holding me back and what awaits me on the other side. It is like I have had a glimpse of a whole new possibility for my life which I could only see once the veil of my current conditioning was teasingly lifted. I can now see how I have been choosing the experiences that confirmed my beliefs in any given situation; I have been living my beliefs. I can now see how identifying my empowering beliefs and becoming aware of the conflict with my disempowering beliefs I can enrich the areas of my life that I feel have been lacking; giving birth to effortless achievement in all areas.

So now I stand at a fork in the road, at the point of no return. I have learnt too much to simply forget my ability to affect profound change. Now I have to choose either to travel the path of least resistance, continuing to live what I currently believe knowing I can change it, or do I take the path less travelled and embrace this opportunity to grow with courage and enhance all areas of my life? Strangely there is still some part of me resisting but I am taking the latter option, the path less travelled. In order to grow I need to get out of my own way!


If you missed week 1 read about it here > Biologically Infinite, Neurologically Limited – My Journey to Empowered Purpose Week 1


For more information about the Empowered for Purpose program visit http://www.lifecoachperth.com and http://www.mindpowercoach.com.